一橋的學姊寄來一篇文章。最近發生很多事情讓我很有感觸。
所謂合理有時候往往是歪裡
我也想拿這個簡單的檢測來看看自己
但有時候真正的理由需要旁邊的人幫忙提醒
另一方面我覺得執行的方式不是拼命想理由 (為什麼),而是去思考解決的手法。
光想原因或理由是在思考負面的東西 (問題怎麼會發生在我身上)。為了解釋為何發生,人容易傾向想各種理由讓自己覺得正當。
立刻思考決方法是在正面思考如何問題怎麼消除讓他不要再發生,人會面對錯誤並採取正確手段。
想理由是STEP1 、想方法是STEP2。許多人停在STEP1就不動了。人只要思考正向就會採取樂觀跟積極的行動
事情就會容易轉好。
所謂吸引力法則其實我覺得沒什麼大道理,也沒那麼玄說是想什麼就會發生。那是魔術。
我認為就是想法帶動行動力。希望完成的事情自然更容易發生。
不是要讓自己變成很機車的人,而是要讓自己遇到問題變成更能正面看待的人。
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Why You Must Be Unreasonable
You succeed when you are unreasonable about succeeding. You neither give nor accept excuses. You insist on becoming a success, no matter what it
takes.
L. Ron Hubbard defines reasonableness as "faulty explanations." When you agree with faulty explanations, you are too reasonable.
Examples of faulty explanations:
"I can’t repair your furnace today as it might rain." The truth is, the repairman is going to drink beer with his friends.
"None of the staff will work past 5:00." The truth is, the manager does not want to work past 5:00.
"I can’t pay you as I promised as my wife is sick." The truth is, he is spending the money on a new boat.
Why Agree?
If you agree with faulty explanations, you agree to fail. Excuses, justifications and reasonableness produce nothing.
Yet disagreeing with failure, with problems and with excuses, helps you succeed.
"If you can’t fix the furnace today because of the rain, I’ll find someone who repairs furnaces, despite the rain."
"I believe lots of people will work past 5:00. You are the manager and need to handle the schedules. Do you need me to show you how to do it?"
"Well, I’m sorry about your wife, but don’t see how that’s related. You agreed to pay me today, so I’ll have to get the money from you right now as
you promised."
When you disagree with faulty explanations, when you are unreasonable about failure, the sun shines, the rainbows appear and everything improves.
Statistical Justifications
The most important thing you must be unreasonable about is decreased productivity. When your statistics in life (how much you earn or produce) are going down, you fail if you make up excuses. You cannot accept faulty explanations for failure.
"Never JUSTIFY why a graph continues to be down and never be reasonable about it. A down graph is simply a down graph and somebody is goofing." — L. Ron Hubbard
Justifications for failures are everywhere:
"Reading skills are getting worse in the United States because we have too many television channels."
"I had to close the business because of the economy."
"No one buys cars from Pete because he’s too old."
If you are reasonable and accept these excuses, you cannot solve the problems.
However, when you disagree with explanations and find the truth, the solutions become obvious.
Examples:
"Television has nothing to do with reading skills. What else could it be? Oh! Are children taught to use a dictionary so they can understand what
they read?"
"Your business didn’t fail because of the economy. It failed because you didn’t know what you were doing. Did you advertise? Did you deliver what you promised? Did you add new products or services that people wanted to buy?"
"People buy cars from salesmen older than Pete every day. Was Pete working every day? Has anyone trained him to sell?"
Be Unreasonable with Yourself
Not only must you be unreasonable with others, you must be unreasonable with yourself. For example you think, "I’m tired because I work so hard."
You then say to yourself, "Too bad! I need to disagree with this silly explanation. I’ve worked harder than this and felt great! I’m tired because I’m working hard on the wrong things. I’m going to WAKE UP, stop wasting time and make this day a productive day!"
More examples:
"I just don’t know how to do it."—- "I will stay up late every night and I will learn how to do it."
"No one is successful in my area." —-"I’ll be the first to succeed in my area, no matter what it takes!"
"I would get the job done today, but I promised myself I could watch the football game."—- "To heck with the game! I’m getting the job done, even if I have to work until midnight."
The barriers to your success are excuses, faulty explanations and justifications. As soon as you decide to get unreasonable with these barriers, you find the solutions you need to become successful.
Exercises
In the examples below, decide which are reasonable explanations and which are the truthful statements.
"I have no money because (I spend more than I earn) (of the cost of gas)."
"I can’t lose weight because (I’m too busy) (I’m lazy and addicted to chocolate)."
"I’m single and lonely because (I don’t get out and meet people) (no one likes me)."
"I can’t find a good assistant because I (am too busy) (am not taking the time to find one)."
"I let people boss me around because (I’m kind and caring) (I don’t stand up to them)."
Recommendations
1. Write down a failure you have had in your life.
2. Write down all the excuses and faulty explanations you have invented or accepted for this failure.
3. Get unreasonable and disagree with all of them.
4. Accept full responsibility for the failure and find what you did or did not do that caused it.
5. Turn the failure into a success.
If you continue to be unreasonable with excuses, justifications and faulty explanations, you will make it go right and turn the failure into a success.
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